I know today I was supposed to do another "Getting Rid of the Stigma, but with all the abortion stuff going on in the news I just had to write about it.
I wanted to talk about three of the most common things Anti-Choice people says when confronted with Pro-Choice people talking about their abortions.
Let's forget the whole "You are evil." "You killed a baby." "God with will judge you." Simply because these are ridiculous statements answered very simply:
"It's not a baby because: SCIENCE and the LAW," and
"God will judge me, not YOU" or "I don't believe in [your] God."'
Let's also get past the fact abortion is legal and the only thing Roe Vs Wade did was make sure women could get accessible safe access to a medical procedure instead of dying in a back ally after shoving a coat hanger in their vagina.
I know I am never going to be able to change the mind of a person so filled with hate, self-righteousness, ignorance or extreme religious beliefs, that abortion isn't wrong or murder. These people will always think that, they will always threaten others and use scare tactics, intimidation and false information to get the results they want whether it hurts people or not. Gee, what does that sound like? Terrorism, that's right the definition of terrorism is :
the use of violence and intimidation in the pursuit of political aims.Which is what hate groups like CMP and Woodsboro Baptist Church are: terrorists.
I do want to point out that the trending hashtag #shoutyourabortion it NOT about pride or bragging, it is simply about sharing your story with others to remove the stigma. You do not HAVE to feel ashamed about your personal choices with your body. No one has the right to tell you how you should feel after an abortion. You may feel shame or regret, that's o.k. it's YOUR choice, but women who do not and who feel relief, liberation or joy should not be treated like they are whores of Satan, but as people who have had a medical procedure, end.of.story. Posting dead (mostly fake btw) baby pics on facebook and twitter doesn't make a woman regret her abortion or choose not to have it, it simply makes YOU look like a disgusting douche wheel.
Here is where we get into topic one.
You want women to not have abortions? Then you need to be pro-life FOR REAL.
That means supporting free and easy access to birth control for everyone.
That means supporting any welfare program you can think of; food stamps, cash aid, free healthcare, low income housing, affordable drug and alcohol rehab, free day care, paid maternity leave,better support systems for children with handicaps etc...etc...
Basically you need to support ANY program that helps the poor, because rich women will always be able to afford an abortion or birth control, it's poor women that decisions like Defunding Planned Parenthood fuck over.
The Pro-Choice people call this special group of anti-choicers: Forced-Birthers/Pro-Birthers, because they don't care about the fetus once it turns into a baby and is expelled from the womb. They don't care that the mother won't be able to afford to feed her kid, or will have to drop out of school or maybe she will die.
Isn't abortion better than a teen mom leaving her baby to die in a dumpster?
They also don't care about the woman HOSTING this fetus ((which is by definition a parasite during almost 95% of all abortions (1.an organism that lives in or on another organism (its host) and benefits by deriving nutrients at the host's expense.)) They only care about her ability to birth it, not how she will live during the pregnancy or after it.
So there it is, wanna be really pro-life, then you gotta care about ALL LIFE.
This leads right into topic two.
"Why don't you just adopt?"
Aside from the fact the mother still has to endure the emotional, physical and finical hardships of being pregnant? How about the over 400,000 kids in the foster care system right now?
I have seen the adoption process, it's a great idea and good choice for many women. But for a woman who simply cannot be an incubator for 9 months, this would be hell. My sister went through an adoption, birth mothers can get their medical expenses paid for, but legally they cannot receive money from the adopting couple which means the host still needs to work and have money for things like idk rent and food? Yeah....
Let us look at some adoption facts:
On average US families adopted more than 140,000 kids....mostly from OTHER countries.
hmmmmm 400,000 in foster homes versus 140,000 actual adoptions.
African American boy babies are the lease likely to actually be adopted out, so while the time it takes to adopt them will be weeks not years, it is because no one wants them, though they are the cheapest to adopt.
So American's only want healthy white babies.
Then there is my response:
"You shouldn't get an abortion because there is always adoption!"
"Yeah, how many adopted or foster kids do YOU have?" or "No, this is the right CHOICE for me."
Then there is the third.
"I hate abortions because of my own fertility issues, it makes me mad that I can't have a baby but you can have an abortion. You don't appreciate what you have right there inside you."
Ugh...I went through a period of time where I had a ton of miscarriages before I got pregnant with my second child. I have also had an abortion. Those two things are not related. Just because a woman has an abortion doesn't mean you are less likely to get pregnant or more likely.
The woman having an abortion is not doing it to spite you, or shoving her ability to get pregnant and terminate it in your face.
I am so sorry to women who struggle with fertility but the argument, "I would take your baby." "Or you are so lucky, I can't even have one!" They just don't work.
A woman seeking an abortion is not lucky she got pregnant, hence the abortion, she feels badly for your issues but those are YOUR issues, her CHOICE has nothing to do with your fertility issues. She is in a predicament where abortion is the right CHOICE and you being mad because she is getting rid of something you want is like saying, "My neighbor just sold their car because they want to start taking the bus, I can't have a car right now (or ever) and I resent that they would rather take the bus."
Also as to the "give me your baby if you don't want it," types, I am sure you would take it. You are, however, over simplifying the situation. The woman having the abortion doesn't want to be pregnant, she doesn't consider the fetus a baby and she couldn't just give it to you.
Fertility issues are sad and awful, they can be life changing and heart breaking, as can abortions. However getting a mad at a woman who chooses to have one simply because you can't just makes you jealous and spiteful. These two things are not related. You are allowed to be over the moon and joyous about your miricale baby, because that is YOU. Another woman isn't having her miracle baby, she is getting rid of a mistake and something unwanted. Two separate issues.
I think it says a great deal that most anti-choicers are ready to call women who have had abortions names, threaten them with physical harm and judge them like they are God and have the right (Which they do NOT. I am no Christian but even I know God doesn't like those who judge others, especially in HIS name.)
James 4:12 There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
Isaiah 11:3 And his delight shall be in the fear of the Lord. He shall not judge by what his eyes see, or decide disputes by what his ears hear.
I see a lot of hate coming from anti-choice people and it sickens me. You think getting rid of an unwanted fetus and being ok with it is sick? I think being awful and twisted towards a group a LIVING humans and posting pictures of those "dead babies" disgusting. (By the by most of those pictures of aborted fetus that look like real babies are either a)totally faked or b) actually of some poor woman's still born, just saying.)
Fake Picture of What a Fetus looks like
Real Picture of what a Fetus Looks Like
I think I will end this with my two favorite sayings:
You don't like abortion? Don't have one.
You can be pro-choice and anti-abortion.
Bright Blessings, as I was called today,
Dracula's Abortion Bride