Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Fake Hymens and Purity Balls
It is amazing the weird products created for women. I find creepy things all the time that I am supposed to use of myself, put in myself and enjoy having done to myself, most sound freaky, uncomfortable and weird…Like eye jewelry and permanent make up tattoos.
I am sure there are some odd products for guys too, however in the male end of things I mainly see adds for penis enlargement and hard on medication…So if you have seen a male product that is just so bizarre you wanna share it here, please do.
However today I want to discuss two things I find very strange in this modern day culture.
This first is this
It is a fucking fake hymen! You insert it and it makes you tighter, when your partner penetrates you it leaks a small amount of fluid that looks like blood. OMG, gross.
I can understand this being used in countries where going to your marriage bed a non-virgin would get you stoned or worse but c’mon. ANY WHERE ELSE THIS IS HORRIBLE. (Well its horrible EVERYWHERE honestly.)
Do we really live in a day and age where being a virgin is important and coveted? I mean really? Guys ask yourself this, do you seriously wanna bed down with a girl who doesn’t know what she is doing, cries, cringes and basically doesn’t want you to touch for the next hour or so cause she is bleeding and sore? Yeah… I didn’t think so. (Not that this ALWAYS happens FYI.)
I mean sure, we all have to be virgins once, and men may not want to marry/boff/kill (thanks 30 rock) slutty girls…. But I have been a virgin and I wouldn’t go back to that for anything and I don’t think my boyfriend would like it either.
I can also see this as being used in some very realistic role playing…. “Please be gentle with me I don’t know what I’m doing.” You know the rest…. Still I can’t help feeling this is a dirty (and not in a fun way) sick item to be able to purchase. If my partner ever asked me to use one they might find themselves single again really soon.
Virginity isn’t bad, in fact not giving it up to the first person who you feel sexy tingles for is probably a good idea, but it also isn’t a special “gift” for a “special” person to unwrap. Women have a dark cloud hanging over themselves because their worth is often times wrapped up in the idea of an intact hymen, this is wrong. What if you were raped? Or you lost it horseback riding, falling on a fence or during gymnastics? Or what if you simply have a healthy active sex life and enjoy your body?
This product, the people that make it and the website are funny, gross and offensive all at the same time.
Now let us talk about this:
In case you don’t know what I am talking about here is the gist. In many conservative and Christian households (many not all and not only) fathers present their daughters with a purity ring (or even nastier a key and lock combo…ewww)…This ring means that the father has control over the daughter’s virginity and in theory the ability to present said ring and daughter to a man who he deems worthy…you know…eventually.
Many times the giving and receiving of this jewelry takes place on a daddy/daughter date or dance where the girls and their father’s dress up like its prom.
While daddy/daughter dates I don’t so much have an issue with as long as dad and daughter are in street clothes and just spending quality time together. I do find these balls to be eerie and disturbing. There are commitment to purity ceremonies and all kinds of ritual like acts to get girls and their fathers to promise to keep the girl’s purity safe.
This is overly sexual for me, it borders on inappropriate. I get not wanting your daughter to go around whoring herself out, I can even understand wanting her to wait until she gets married. I do not understand why you have to dress up, make it a huge deal and sign paperwork.
A father should not really be that into his daughter’s sex life. As a mother I want my daughter to feel comfortable talking to me about sex and boys, but I also don’t want her to feel ashamed and worried because I have made this HUGE deal out of it.
Can you imagine the guilt if the daughter has sex with a boy a few years later, or is raped? What is to stop a father from taking a very dominant over bearing stance now that he is in complete control of his little girl’s virginity?
Tell me, why aren’t boys made to do the same thing? If you want your daughter to sign a pledge to keep her legs together until marriage shouldn’t your sons also pledge to keep it in their pants equally so? Another thing, this is strictly for heterosexual girls…cause you can’t possibly lose your virginity to another woman, right? NOT.
Again this idea over sexualizes the father/daughter relationship. We have long since passed the time when dads owned their daughters until the “right” man came along. I find purity culture just trying to strangle liberal females and place all women back where they were 50 or more years ago.
I have included some pictures… so enjoy, and if I don’t post again until after Christmas have a happy Winter Holiday.
Posted by Graveyard Rose